Kinda-sorta on the loading/unloading. Yes, once loaded it cannot be unloaded. The method of loading may be through a number of means, most of which have a "demand load" option which only loads the module (and calls for a license) when a command is called. By default most add-ins load at start-up to keep things simple. The loading process, and how you can control it, should be nearly the same as the more common Raster Design add-in.
If this uses an ACAD.RX file (look for the first one in the Support file search path), then it will have an entry for the AutoTurn module. The only ways to handle this is to either remove the entry, then manually load the module when you need it; or to have different profiles with different search paths that point to different ACAD.RX files (one with, one without).
If this uses registry loading, find the registry entry for the AutoTurn module. There is a flag value which controls how it's loaded (on start-up, on command call, etc.), which will need to be changed to a different value. I don't have those precise values handy right now, perhaps others could chime in.
If this uses package loading, find the XML file for the Autoturn package. It can be edited in notepad or other plain text editor; there will be a loading method value in the file similar to registry loading. Again, I'll have to leave the precise details to others.
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