Your specs seem decent enough. Even though your graphics card is not on the list people use Max with less.
When you say that it takes a long time, how many seconds approximately does it take to open and close 3ds Max?
I just did a test on my somewhat old system (i7 4790k, 16GB RAM, RTX 2080 Super) and it took roughly 45 seconds to get to a point where I could start doing something in 3ds Max.
Ben Bisares