Rob,
We are not understating your comments.
It appears to us, after close review of the Revit documentation and forums, that Revit was unable to connect a mechanical device (bathroom fan) to a typical single pole switch. This would be typical of most real world installations of these parts.
One solution that we had come to, was to download the same mechanical device, from the same vendor, but with a built in light. Your suggestion of finding the correct family/device, without a light but that was still mechanical device (fan) and could be connected to a switch system, did not work out. After much searching, none of us could locate a fan that could be connected to a switch. The solution is unfortunately a workaround, but what we are finding with our use of Revit over the last 10 years, is to complete a project, you need to implement workarounds to the limitations of Revit.
We marked this "workaround" as a solution, in the hopes to help others looking for the same thing.
Thank you