What he is saying by the words "whether you know it or not", is that ref planes are the primary component that makes revit families/components/groups and their associated constraints/parameters (the ones relevant to this conversation that is. There are , of course, other types of parameters.) work.
So when you are using any sort of element in your project and subsequently locking it, you are able to do so because it has been defined by dimensioned or aligned ref planes.
If you have ref planes but can't lock them, it's because you have not dimensioned them or aligned them yet in some way.
If you open up one of the revit family templates, you will see a bunch of ref planes , probably some notes (though not all have these), lock pads, and basically anything that defines that revit family template. This sort of illustrates just how definitive those ref planes are.
He was right to say "THE" answer. Because it is.
I think the "accepted answer" in this thread , while not wrong per se, is not the complete answer. I think barthbradley gave a much more complete and correct answer .. but I digress:)