Ok, Vitaulic called me this morning and fixed the problem. Let me see if I can discribe the correction correctly. first Vixtaulic stated they are currently working on updated families redesigned to work better in 2014 REVIT.
(this problem maybe effecting other Vic fittings as well)
If you edit the "victaulic-ips-elbow no 10-13.rfa" family, easiest to go to or stay in the 3D view.
And click on the "Connector Element" coming off the coupling, go to properties and
go the the "Constraints" tab and select "Angle", click the pull-down to get the "Associate family parameters" dialog box,
originaily the fitting downloaded had "<none>" selected, so this is why the angle never wanted to change, but to stary at the default of 45 degrees. Change this from "<none>" to "Angle" parameter, and save/reload into the project and bingo it works.
The other item Victaulic recommended to change is in the "family catagory and parameters" property dialog -
Ralph at Vic said some fittings went did not have the "Always Vertical" clicked on.
Let me know if you'd prefer I just upload the corrected file.
Victaulic stated they should be posting the 2014 Vic families soon.
I'm thinking this soultion might solve other fitting problem too.
Pretty simple fix, it's always the little things...
Thanks for everyone help on this!